Monday, February 6, 2012

Little Jack's Honor (Part One: Motherhood & a Judgmental Letter)

"For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother's womb.

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.

My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.

Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them."

~ Psalm 139:13-16

Motherhood has been one of the best things that has ever happened to me!  I realized my calling to be a wife and a mommy as a teenager.  However, I followed the expected course of life - college and career.  I met my husband three years after college graduation (a story in and of itself!) and we are living our “ever after” now with a little addition who is now 19 months old.

Motherhood has helped me realized who I am.  It has strengthened me in many ways.  I am being refined daily, in many ways too! 

Motherhood has allowed me to pursue a passion - research.  One of my goals in research is to discover how people did it in Biblical days and even just a few centuries ago.  It being Life - how did they live off the land, how did they raise creative and competent children without all the recommended gadgets of today, how did they live without all the modern conveniences of today, how did they heal their bodies without modern medicine and modern doctors, how would they face today’s culture with yesterday’s values?

Motherhood has driven me to be more active in my quest.  I will share the plethora of information I’ve learned, specifically to infants, over the past two years over several posts.

Let me open with an anonymous letter (spelling and grammar errors included) that was written to our pediatrician in April of 2011:

To whom it may concern at LaGrange Pediatrics:

As an acquaintance of this family I am only writing this out of deep distress and concern for the well being of William Darden Moye IV due to his low weight, only weighting approximately 14 lbs since his birth at the end of June 2010 due to alternative and holistic means of feeding and nursing this baby.  The mother has consumed raw milk since she found out she was pregnant and has continued to do so despite advice from professionals and licensed doctors, even though her breast milk is primary source of his nutrition.  Despite being advised to supplement his diet with rice cereal and other foods to increase his intake to assist with weight gain and normal development she has refused to do so.  Also developmentally this baby is barely sitting up by himself, not crawling, or interested in normal play routines associated with babies at this age.  There is also no normal sleep patterns for this child which I know is also important for healthy brain development with babies.  This baby has also kept a yeast infection off and on since birth and being treated with gentian violet, enough to turn his mouth and lips purple for extended amounts of time.  He also recently has had a terrible diaper rash or “acid burn” the parents have both described in detail the severe areas of cracking, bleeding, scabbing on the child’s bottom/rectum area and also despite being advised to use the “normal” products to cure diaper rash she has decided against medical advice and instead has applied “homemade and holistic concoctions to treat this even applying a vinegar solution this the open cracked areas as she describes in her recent face book posts which are included.  Again I only bring this to your attention out of sincere concern for the well being and development of this child and ask that you thoroughly ask and inquire more about the feeding, nursing, and sleep patterns of this child during his doctor appointments and also inquire about medications and holistic means of treating this baby medically that are being used.  Please try and ensure that this baby starts getting the proper nourishment and medical help he desperately needs!

First off, let me make a suggestion - get all the doctor notes on your child!  You will probably have to sign a medical release, pay a fee, and pay so much per page, but this is your doctor’s interpretation of what you say to him concerning YOUR child!  The records reveal not only his comments, but any tests results and treatment plans.  I disagree that you should have to pay for information that is rightfully yours.  But YOU need to know how the doctor interprets your concerns and how your child is being treated medically.  And you may find out information you’ll never receive in a routine appointment (such as the above letter, in our case).  There’s no way for any parent to remember all these details, even if written in a baby journal.

Secondly, if you have concerns about an acquaintance’s baby, go to the parents before writing an anonymous letter to their pediatrician!  You just may find out that your concerns are unresearched, misguided, opinionated, and just plain ignorant.  One Facebook post cannot accurately portray the big picture of what’s going on in their lives. 

Fighting for Little Jack’s honor started before April 2011, though.  After months of research before his birth, my husband and I decided that we would refuse the routine treatments of newborns - vitamin K shot, eye antibiotic ointment, and circumcision. 

Vitamin K shots are given because a deficiency in Vitamin K can prevent blood from clotting.  This is especially critical for circumcision in males.  However, I was reminded:

Leviticus 12:3 “And on the eighth day the flesh of his foreskin shall be circumcised.”

Genesis 21:4 “Then Abraham circumcised his son Isaac when he was eight days old, as God has commanded him.”

Luke 1:59 “So it was, on the eighth day, that they came to circumcise the child....”  (referring to John the Baptist)

Luke 2:21 “And when eight days were complete for the circumcision of the Child....”

Philippians 3:5 “circumcised the eighth day....” (referring to Paul)

I added the emphasis on the eighth day.  Why would God provide this law to the Israelites?  Blood doesn’t clot well before the EIGHTH day and sensitivity to pain increases after the EIGHTH day!  God knew this without lab tests and modern medical research!

The eye antibiotic ointment is administered to prevent the spread of gonorrhea and chlamydia bacteria.  I do not have either!  (I refused testing on myself during pregnancy as well.  I do realize not everyone is open and honest about their sexual activity and about possible diseases they may carry.  And that the prenatal testing and eye ointment is a precaution for the baby.)

Needless to say, social services paid us a visit the day after our return home.  Another fight for my son’s honor!  I simply told her I had spent months researching and that we had made a well-informed decision and one with the best interest of our son in mind.  She realized our competence and politely excused herself without further questioning. 

Part Two to follow . . . .

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